Thursday, May 31, 2018

Have You Ever Been Proposed To?

Have You Ever Been Proposed To?
If you want a conversation with your friends that is interesting, sometimes deep, sometimes fun, this is the question to ask!
I did a few years back, out of curiosity, and the answers were surprising. It was a birthday party with some fifteen women present. Out of these fifteen women only one was proposed to by her now husband! He did it when they were on holiday in the States on the Empire State building. It was very romantic, and yes, he got down on one knee to ask the question. They’re still happily married to date.
None of the other women had ever been proposed to. In most cases it was a matter of talking about it along the veins of “We’ve been living together for quite some time. Maybe we should get married?”
Or they’d discussed it because it was financially feasible to get married. For some others marriage came up because they wanted children and didn’t want to get them when not married.

I must admit that my story isn’t a whole lot different. I’d always wanted to get married, it was this dream I had of a gorgeous dress, photos, a big party, the whole enchilada. But when I was with my man, living together and being happy, my hormones woke up and I wanted to have children. The urgency to have a child was way stronger than my dream to get married. Not long after that I got pregnant and I was ecstatic! We decided to get married after we’d had our child. But I found out it was far more hassle to get the legal things sorted concerning our baby when not legally wed. And it would cost a considerable amount of money as well.
Long story short; I got married when I was nearly 5 months pregnant. In retrospect I shouldn’t have done that as my dream to have this wonderful wedding was never fulfilled and it kept nagging me for years on end. Because of my baby-bump -and the speed with which I had to find something bridal-like-, I never had the gorgeous dress of my dreams. Even now that the child I carried in my womb at the time is 27, it still doesn’t sit well with me. I’m giggling now, but I cannot deny the fact.

These days the topic of ‘tying the knot’ is still a very interesting one, not just for young people but also for people who’ve already been in a relationship.
I think it is safe to say that many men who’ve been married or in a long-term relationship that fell apart, don’t feel the need to get married again. They typically don’t see the point.
Unfortunately a huge amount of women do want marriage, even when they’ve already been married before.
In spite of that, there’s a group of women who don’t want to go there again, who don’t see the point of it either or who want to remain independent.
All in all it is an interesting subject.
I myself hope to one day in the not far away future to be proposed to. And yes, I’d love the man of my dreams to drop on one knee in front of me.
What can I say? I love a fair amount of romance in life! And trust me, this gels really well with a more kinky relationship.

Don’t believe me? I’ll prove you wrong in my book “Free Me, Master!” Even the very moment where Rebecca -the heroine- softly speaks the words “Free me, Master!” is super romantic.
After Rebecca meets her man, she finds out she wants more than just be his “girlfriend”, and she faces the dilemma of her man not proposing. She isn’t sure how to address the issue, nor how he will react, and she’s not certain whether a compromise is possible.
If you’re romantic like me, and also into more kinky relationships, let me surprise me with “Free Me, Master!”

Lots of Love!
Dani Rose

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Fiona McGier said...

Once in college, when a guy said we fit well together so we should get married, but it was casual, with no knee. I disagreed and refused him. Then a guy I dated for a few years in late college, had me move in with him when I graduated. He just assumed we'd get married, so he never proposed. After a few months, I realized it wasn't working for me, so I moved out.

My husband and I had been dating for a couple of years before we moved in together. He was on a bowling league and I would meet him after work, and we'd go out to a local place for pizza and a pitcher of beer. A couple of months after we began co-habitating, we were chowing down on pizza, and he casually leaned over the table and said, "How 'bout it? You and me? Get married?" I stopped in mid-chew and said, "No shit? Okay." And that was it. Our 4 kids find it hilarious, and will tease us, asking us to tell them the "totally romantic" way that their dad proposed to me. But for me, it was fine. I'd never wanted a fancy dress or church affair, nor did I see the need for a hall/band/expensive food. I called the courthouse, set a date, we got married in court, invited our friends/relatives to our house, and we set up tents in the backyard, along with a porta-potty, and served sandwiches, side salads, lots of alcohol, and a beer keg. It was a blast! And our relatives agreed that we did it, "Our way." Since we celebrate 34 years in a couple of weeks, it must have been done right. And we still go, every year at least once, to that pizza place, where we told the owner why we keep coming back.

Our second son, the only one married so far, made a big deal out of taking his co-habitating girlfriend out to dinner, then they went strolling around a local forest preserve in the snow, where he got down on one knee and proposed. Guess he's more romantic than his dad, and certainly more so than me!

BTW, I once read a quote that said, "I've met quite a few virgins who'd never been proposed to, but have never met a sexually-active woman who hadn't been proposed to at least once." Grin!

Tina Donahue said...

I love watching "Say Yes to the Dress" but OMG, the prices for those gowns. Who can afford a grand wedding these days? Even as a kid when I'd see relatives splurging on huge weddings then the couple living in a cramped apartment afterwards, I thought I'd rather have a nice house for decades than a great celebration for one day. Practical to a fault, I guess.