I've been doing a lot of thinking about marriage because the first of my children to wed will be getting married on Sunday, two states away, where he lives with his lady. We all love her. I told her that she's already a part of our family...the ceremony is just a formality. But my son made a remark when he was staying here a couple of weekends ago, when he was in town for the bachelor party that his oldest brother (AKA the best man) threw for him. He said that since they've been living together for over a year, that he didn't expect that much would change after they got married. And that got me to pondering the changes to be encountered.
I lived with my husband for almost a year before we got married. The biggest change that we noticed immediately was that we no longer threatened each other during arguments, that one of us would "pack our shit and leave." Marriage means legal ramifications for splitting up the couple. We joked that until we got married, we never combined our albums (yes, we're old enough to have both had huge collections of LPs); but once we were married, we alphabetized them together. Don't even ask about the arguments about, say, "Does Led Zeppelin go under L or Z?" And "Stevie Rae Vaughn under R or V?"
I once read::
- When you fall in love, you think your beloved has no flaws.
- When you love that person, you do so in spite of their flaws.
- But when you really love someone, you do so because of their flaws, because without those flaws he/she wouldn't be the person you love.
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And my most recent book, Her Last Resort, has the heroine and hero both in their 50s, so her children are adults. Can you fall in love at any age? I think so! How about you?