Friday, September 7, 2012

School's back in session

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Going back to school...I remember the anticipation of the first day back to school.  I loved school and everything that went with it.  Shopping for clothes, school supplies, and finding the coolest lunchbox ever.  Of course when dirt was young, we had Thermos in our lunch boxes.  :)  Problem with school at our house is that we have moved to a new town, new school and new friends.  Our son is still adjusting to his new surroundings but its hard for him. 

For 4 years he was in the Mabank school district.  He went to two years of Head Start (speech/hearing problems) and then off to kindergarten and 1st grade.  He was active in T-ball, after school care and summer day camp.  He was constantly busy.  He had friends, girls that flirted with him (trust me on this one) and was never bored.  Now in our new town, friendships are harder to form, basketball doesn't start up until November but the girls still love him.

Hubs and I went to lunch with him yesterday at school and the girls were lining up.  Too bad the boys weren't anywhere to be found.  I worry that he won't fit in and make friends.  He doesn't talk about school like he used to.  I figured that he would be Chatty Cathy about school but now all he talks about is wanting to go back to Mabank to school and missing his friends.  We have talked with him about making friends and such but no luck so far.  At our church, we has plenty of friends but none of them go to his elementary school.  Unfortunately, they go to the other one in town.  *sigh*

I'm a stay at home mom for now because we figured that our son would need to adjust to school and everything that went with it.  Now, we are kind of looking at this decision as a mistake.  Maybe, I do need to go back to work so that he can be at an after school program.  Right now, we don't need the added income but I'm sure that won't last.

So my question to you is...did you move your child(ren) and have the same problems?  What solutions to you come up with?



Tina Donahue said...

I don't have any children, so I couldn't offer any solutions from that POV. However, I was a child and I recall school being the best of times and the worst of times. Yeah, I was bullied, ignored and all that junk we all seem to go through. But I eventually had a BFF and together we had a great time. I hope your son meets his BFF soon.

Harlie Reader said...

Thanks Tina. He needs a new BFF in our new town. I never realized how hard it would be for a boy. I figured boys would just buddy up and be done with it. Lesson learned.


Maria said...

I think it will just take some time...even if you don't have a job you could still put him in after care so that he can meet friends or maybe there is another sport you can sign him up for where he might make friends that go to his school. Check with the teachers and counselors at the school and see if they have any suggestions...like Tina said ...school it really it the best and worst of times..

Fiona McGier said...

I sympathize with you trying to do the best for your son.

Could you start up or join a playgroup? I know those are usually for kids not in school yet, but it would allow for him to interact with kids in his classes in a less-formal setting. Or sign him up for park-district sports or classes? How about scouts? 3 of my 4 enjoyed being scouts. It may just take him some time to adapt.

Don't let him make you second-guess your move! Kids don't deserve or really want that kind of power, even though they think they do. You are the adults and you make the choices that will ultimately be best for your family...for all of you, not just for him.

I have 3 boys and one girl. But we moved to our current house the year before the oldest started kindergarten. They are all adults now, and believe me, the books you read together, the activities you take him to, like parks, zoos, museums, cultural things...all of that will ultimately be more responsible for creating an intelligent and erudite adult than whether or not he has someone to eat lunch with. Let him talk to you about his feelings, and validate them, but remind him that there are some things he can't understand yet because he's a child.

This too, shall pass.