Friday, June 1, 2012

I Confess...

           A while ago a blogger at SNSD asked readers if they skipped sex scenes in romance novels. While reading a good story by an excellent erotic romance writer last weekend I realized something. I am an erotic romance author and sometimes I skip sex scenes. Well, I skim not skip.
            I’d never thought about it before. I knew I skimmed some of the love scenes in non-erotic romance. I don’t always like euphemisms for sex acts but I don’t want to miss any character development that might happen during a love scene. Last weekend I realized I also skim sex scenes in erotic romance. I asked myself why.
            After some soul searching and too much introspection for the weekend, I finally figured it out. The story may be gripping yet sometimes I am just not into the sex I am reading about. It isn’t personal and it doesn’t ruin the entire book for me.
Maybe that day I have a stomach ache and food sex is too much for me to take. No drizzled chocolate for me. Or it’s Monday and ménage is off the menu. I know it’s silly but sometimes I get to a sex scene and realize I don’t care for the content…that day.
What about you? Do you read, skim or skip?

Enslaved in Desire blurb:
Camryn is taken captive after Earth is invaded by hostile aliens. She is sold as an exotic, an expensive sex slave. Camryn is willing to do anything to survive and escape captivity. That includes convincing her master that she enjoys his touch. Then she is purchased by the sexy warrior Venn. Now she must convince herself that she can resist a male whose every caress ignites a passion she has never known.
           Venn is an empathic and hyper-sensitive tribal lord from planet Ordan. He has never owned a slave, yet he cannot resist the beautiful Earth woman. She teases his heightened senses and pushes past the control he has over his emotions. Venn struggles to own Camryn’s body with scorching sex and a firm hand. And when his possession of her body is complete, he’ll try to claim her soul.


Tina Donahue said...

Interesting questions, Stormie. If the sex is gratuitous and so frequent that there's very little plot, then yes, I will skip the scenes. If it's thrown in at the wrong time (eg: in the middle of a life/death situation and I'm worried about how the hero/heroine will survive), then I might skip ahead just to make sure everything will come out okay.

In my own stories I try to lace a lot of emotional build in with the sex. That way it's not all about the physical stuff, but the feelings. I find that the feelings create even more sensuality and satisfaction. :)

Delicious Romance From Cerise DeLand said...

I read the sex scenes BEFORE I read the story!
What does that make me?
Why do I do that?
Do I read ahead in other types of lit I buy? I always used to find and read the crisis point.
For the last few years, I don't.
Inquiring minds want to know...but if they do, WHY is that important?
Thanks for this interesting post.

jean hart stewart said...

Hmmm. something to think about. Sex scenes are difficult to write so they seem real. I read them all, and generally find them very well done. If reader skips in my books I'd be crushed....

Mrs Condit said...

I'll speed read them if there are a lot of them and I'm eager to find out what happens next in the actual plot, or want to know more about a character. It doesn't spoil the story for me and I might even go back and read the sex scenes later, but when I'm really into a good book I want the character development and the plot more than I want a chapter-long sex scene, ("he touched me here and then he touched me there, and then I almost came but he stopped touching me and asked me something...")

Stormie Kent said...

Hi Tina, are we saying gratuitous sex is bad? Oh, you mean in books not real life. Whew, that was close. ;-)

Wow Cerise, you read the sex scenes before the you read the novel. I may have to try that. Sounds naughty.

Jean, no worries. I usually read the stories multiple times. At some point I read the entire book. And you're right, sex scenes can be killer to write.

Hi Mrs. Condit. I think I agree. I want more of the central plot if it is gripping. That is why I skim sometimes. As Tina says, most of the time there is some character growth in a sex scene in an erotic romance. Maybe the characters have trust issues or are working through inhibitions. Maybe a sex scene is where one character realizes the relationship isn't just a sexual one. If I skip instead of skim I will miss that.

Fiona McGier said...

I read the sex scenes where the author put them, because I put them where the characters "tell" me to! I feel they are an integral part of the plot and character development. That's why I don't try to write for YA audiences, because I'm an adult and I like writing and reading well-done sexual situations.

Interesting query ...sometimes I have skipped TO the sex scenes, figuring if they aren't done well, there isn't any point to the rest because there won't be a good pay-off for reading about the sexual tension. My Mom used to drop-kick books across the room if she read the whole thing and there wasn't any graphic sex. She was so disappointed!