Wednesday, February 1, 2012

What Makes A Kiss Amazing?



 In a romance, the leading characters share a spark they aren’t able to experience with anyone else. F/M, F/F, M/M, MFM or any combination thereof, a quality kiss signals to those involved that they belong together. Is the perfect kiss a flight of fancy that can only be realized in the pages of a novel, screenplay, movie or (if you’re really, really lucky) in real life? Or, is the explanation to be found in warm hard (pun intended) science?

            I’m sure it depends on who you ask. I went searching for scientific answers to explain the perfect kiss and stumbled upon some very interesting facts. In her book, The Science of Kissing: What Our Lips Are Telling Us, Sheril Kirshenbaum reports that kissing releases a sort of chemical cocktail in our brains. Dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin norepinephrine and epinephrine all contribute to a stellar kiss.

            Have you ever felt high after being kissed? That’s the neurotransmitter dopamine and it can be quite addictive. During a kiss, oxytocin increases in the body creating feelings of attachment and bonding. Serotonin influences feelings of obsession with your partner and norepinephrine contributes that weak knee feeling. Every great kiss should speed up your heart rate and make you sweat, at least a little. This is a sign of epinephrine at work in your body.

            Heck, men even transfer testosterone to their partners during a kiss. This helps to prime their make out buddy for more sexy high jinks post kiss. I guess when people say, “We have great chemistry,” they aren’t kidding.

            So when you’re describing the hot, weak limbed, can’t get enough closeness you experience during and after kissing your significant other to a best girl or guy friend- for the tenth time- you can also explain that your preoccupation is completely natural.

             What is the best part of a kiss for you? Is it excitement, closeness, breathless jitters or some other aspect of a kiss that makes it perfect? Leave a comment. I would love to discuss kiss perfection with you.

Stormie




Author Bio

Stormie Kent is the author of romance with science-fiction, paranormal and contemporary elements. The universe she has envisioned for her erotic sci-fi romances are filled with warrior men and the women who fiercely love them. Space pirates abound with dueling goals of stealing your credits and your life or stealing villain credits and freeing the slaves of the United Universe. Stormie has imagined a world where the hostile alien invasion of the third planet from the Sun forces each surviving resident of a fractured Earth to seize their destiny or perish. Her first book, Enslaved in Desire, is available now.


15 comments:

Tina Donahue said...

What a great post, Stormie - love the tranferring testosterone part. :) Best part of the kiss for me is anticipation. His lips closing in on mine, then contact. Mmmmmm.

Tea Trelawny said...

Fascinating! Thanks for this post, Stormie. And I agree, Tina...the anticipation is great.

Fiona McGier said...

I've read that men have scent producing glands on their upper lips, so the mustache is a prime conductor to your nose when you are kissing a man. The center of the chest and chest hair are other great pheromone-producers.

I think kissing is under-rated by younger men who are often impatient to "get to the action". In reality, the longer and more intense the kissing goes on, the more a female's system gets her ready for the "action"!

But puh-leeze, no sloppy kisses, with bubbles of spit being transferred! Dueling of tongues, okay. Sucking of tongues as if you intend to swallow it, kind of painful! Vary the pressure of the lips, from soft and gentle, to passionate, and you have already captured someone's heart!

jean hart stewart said...

How interesting. Now I know I wasn't imagining it when my to-be husband kissed me for the first time. Love knowing there's a chemical explanation...

Stormie Kent said...

Hi Tina,
I think we all love the anticipation. When it's good it can be... delicious.

Stormie Kent said...

Hi Tea,
I enjoyed writing the post and am very happy you enjoyed reading it. It's great knowing that some part of our craft is "scientific".

Stormie Kent said...

Hi Fiona,
If men have those handy sweat glands on their upper lips it is for our benefit. Our sense of smell is stronger than a man's sense of smell.

The research I came across speculated that men love those sloppy kisses because they are subconsciously trying to transfer testosterone. I love this stuff.

Stormie Kent said...

Hello Jean,
You must have picked your perfect mate...
Thanks for stopping by and commenting.

Tim Smith said...

Excellent insightful post , Stormie. I have to agree that the anticipation is a big part of it, especially early in the game. The whole "will she let me?" thing is exciting and the build-up can be positively excillerating - from a man's POV at least. I agree that younger men aren't well versed in the art of osculating. If I knew then what I know now...

Hey, thanks for explaining that moustache thing - I KNEW there was a reason I grew one!

Tim Smith

Stormie Kent said...

Hi Tim,
Thank goodness for practice. And there is another excuse to keep at it, "I'm practicing my kissing technique and need help with my homework." ;-)

Tim Smith said...

Stormie, the last time I used that line I got slapped into the middle of next week - but it didn't stop me from trying it again LOL.

Tim

Stormie Kent said...

Thanks for the warning Tim. Men, use that line very, very carefully.

caroline-mccall.com said...

I'm sorry, no moustaches please. Ugh. It's like kissing a sweeping brush. And no, I don't make a habit of entertaining domestic appliances, I just don't like facial hair.

Anticipation. Your palms against his chest, the sweet scent of him, the sharp, bright pleasure of knowing that it is going to happen. And the first tentative taste. mmmm

A.S. Fenichel said...

Great post, Stormie. There's nothing like a good toe-curling kiss!

Stormie Kent said...

Hi Caroline and Andrea,
I'm waving so hard my arm hurts.