“I don’t want to have to explain to my 12 year old daughter what this is!”
Welcome to Sweet and Sexy Divas where today I might be perceived as anything but that. *grins* I’m not posting as one of my muses, rather me, the author, who is also a wife and parent. I’m an erotica author as many of you may or may not know. It just so happens, I love looking at beautiful men. (Who doesn’t) In stages of dress or undress, together in couples or not, but it’s become a hobby of mine to collect pics of models and post them on my Facebook, my Menspirations blog, or my new Google Plus page.
The above pic was posted this past week on my Google page. For those of you who don’t use Google Plus, you can control who sees your posts, much like FB. Public, friends, or you have a specific circle where everyone will not see your posts.
Now, the above comment was placed under the pic. I immediately removed this person from my friends cirle, who I believe was another author. What I said in response, I didn’t post it publically, meaning only my friends could see the photo. The person proceeded to say well, take me out of that group so I won’t see pics like this please, thanks.
OOOHHKAY. People, you may disagree, but this photo isn’t offensive. Yes, he’s naked, he is covered and actually, this photo is from a group of photos that are selling necklaces for men. *laughs* Yep, that’s what I said. The point is, he IS COVERED, it wasn’t posted publically but this person said, ‘how will I explain this to my 12 year old.’
Okay, let’s just be real folks. Your 12 year old has most likely seen a naked male and or female in sex ed or in some of those magazines or even cartoons that are um, a little racy that they sneak and watch. Damnit people, get a grip. I know you, as a teen, had times where you looked at things away from the watchful eyes of your parents, just like I did and again, it’s not a pornographic picture.
What about this?
This is an ad for the Armani Exchange selling underwear. Model Clint Mauro in a pose, on a beach. Is this any less offensive or erm, detrimental to your kid? This could be seen anywhere. In Vogue, Cosmo, any women’s or men’s fashion magazine, and not even on the net. Even if it was, why is it considered harmful and if it was, why should I be concerned as long as I put it on my page?
As authors, bloggers, etc, we do have the responsibility to post disclaimers on our web pages and blogs. Under 18 should not visit. Blog is rated R. Parental advisories, but again, this wasn’t my blog. This was my own personal Google Page where one single photo was only posted for my friends to see.
After that, I made sure I posted, the pics and blog posts I put here are of adult nature. If you’re not comfortable, please unfriend me. The same issues were over at FB. People have the right to report your book covers and pictures anonymously. You get warnings, sometimes even blocked from using your account.
I recently got a warning about this photo which I posted on my wall back in April.
What’s wrong with this picture? Her nipple is showing. *shakes head* Oh my! This is really offensive! I’ve gotta cover my kid’s eyes! They can’t see that. In all reality people, they see and hear more crap when they watch South Park and or Family Guy. Can you always shelter them? No. What good will it do? None in my opinion. Your 12 year old kid has most likely seen plenty of nudity in one form or fashion so why should any of these pictures be offensive?
Again, I’m a parent, I’m an erotica writer. I have a 13 year old son who knows I write gay romance. I took the time to explain to him how love is beautiful in every form. We also had the talk about sex at age nine and we’ll be having a refresher in a couple of months. I take an active role in what he listens to and watches, however, I’m not naïve enough to think he won’t see anything. I’m not blaming anyone for what they have on their pages. Not reporting people for their naked lady pics on websites, and even if I wasn’t a writer, I still wouldn’t.
I believe in freedom of speech and allowing everyone to make their own choices as to what’s offensive. If you don’t like the photo, click away, unfriend, whatever. The bottom line is, it’s not my responsibility to censor myself because you don’t want to.
There are solutions that both Google and FB can do to make this easier for everyone instead of closing down accounts and giving warnings. I’ll go on and explore that next time.
For now, give me your thoughts. Tell me if I’m way off base. We’re all adults here. I can take it.
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